Talks With Toni Coaching
Healing starts here
It begins with a YES
to choosing yourself!
Supporting Adult Female Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA)
Learn to set safe, healthy boundaries without guilt or fear!
Learn to feel safe enough to claim your true identity or define it for maybe the first time in your life!
Finally, live the life you deserve and enjoy doing it!
Restoring the power within!
Survivor to Survivor...
I have been where YOU are!
I understand how YOU feel!
I get YOU!
We will work to:
- Identify your strengths
- Identify the challenges you may face
- Name behavior patterns that are keeping you from progressing
We will:
- Meet once a week, 4 times per month for 60 or 90 minutes
- Work as a team to reach your recovery goals
- Gain clarity on what you want to accomplish during our time together
You will begin to:
- Learn tools to rescue and save yourself
- Learn techniques to self-advocate
- Feel at ease overcoming obstacles
- Establish new, healthy boundaries in your life
My Story
I have always felt like I just didn’t fit in. I was taught that tears were a sign of weakness; so, I internalized many of the emotions I felt or suppressed them. Turning my emotions inward was wreaking havoc on my mind, body, soul, and connections with others and with myself. As a child, I experienced sexual, verbal, psychological, and emotional abuse. There was no therapy provided because everything was a secret and if I had an opinion, it was not to be shared with anyone. A family rule in many cultures is Children should be seen and not heard, and sometimes children are not believed. As a teenager, I finally reached a point where I couldn’t keep one more secret and told someone about my abuse. Hearing those words ring through the air was like a bell that could not be un-rung. It took me years to escape the aftereffects of my trauma. Trauma has permeated every part of my life – my mind, my relationships, my choices, the way I see the world, and how I function in it. I was dominated by fear.
I wanted to die and I finally got to a place where I knew I needed help. I desperately wanted/needed someone to save me/rescue me. I tried family, friends, sex, alcohol, pills, and therapy. I needed something else. I finally turned to my faith in God. I knew the pain was too much for me to tackle on my own and He stepped in and made a way for me to start healing. It was not an overnight fix. It has been a journey. It takes work and a commitment to want to heal and not to pretend anymore. Pretending was exhausting and I didn't want to do it anymore. I’m grateful that now, I can just be and
whatever form it takes is fine.
I understand what it's like to feel small, insignificant, or like a fraud because there is no freedom to be your authentic self - To be free from shame, sadness, anxiety, fear, and trauma.
As a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, it is a blessing to walk beside you as you embark on your own healing journey. I will be there to help you find your voice, embrace your truth and carve out a path that is uniquely yours. Trauma recovery coaching is different from therapy because you are in control. It’s a client-led process. I'm a survivor just like you; so, we will work together as peers and travel companions on this journey. No one knows you like you do or whom you want to become and
I’m excited to explore the possibilities with you.
You deserve to be happy! Today you get to choose Freedom and Safety instead of fear and pain.
Do you feel alone?
Do you feel pressure to make others like you or put their needs before your own?
Is the stress of your trauma making you sick?
Digestive problems? Headaches? Trouble Sleeping? Are you irritable and don't know why?
The truth is...
It's possible to heal from past traumas.
You are NOT alone and deserve to be happy!
You CAN feel safe living a life you deserve and enjoy!
Relationships
The most important part of the coaching process is
the relationship between the client and the coach.
3 things make for a good client/coach relationship - Trust, Respect, and Integrity.
I work to create an environment that is built on trust, respect, and integrity, so I can bring compassion and curiosity into the coaching environment.
My job is to foster healthy, nurturing relationships with my clients.
Time
Time is a precious commodity; so, I will value your time!
Your coaching time is meant to help you achieve your recovery goals and
engage in healthy behaviors that will help you live the life you really want.
Process and Joy
The coaching process is hard work and can be tough; so, it's important to allow space
for joy, laughter, and fun into the space. Coaching may require you to go to some
uncomfortable, difficult places; but, we can balance that with some playful, joy-filled exchanges.
My goal is to empower, educate, and teach you!
"Toni has the gifts of deep listening and compassion. She is authentic, and her approach is heart-centered, gentle, and supportive. The experience of having Toni walk with me as I explored parts of my painful past was like being wrapped in a warm blanket. She created safety for me to have the courage and strength to uncover and let go painful memories, and to remember, see and embrace my True Self. She’s the real deal!"
Lucie
"Toni is kind and compassionate. She has an incredible ability to listen to her clients and focus in on what needs the most attention. She holds a gentle presence that encourages her clients to speak vulnerably, and she genuinely cares about people."
Sierra
"Toni was so supportive and helped me see where I was being hard on myself as I was feeling stuck with some inner critic banter blocking my way in life. She showed her compassionate heart and uplifting personality that helped me get out of my funk and see the brighter side of life. I would recommend Toni to anyone looking for a coach!"
Jill
FAQs
How will I know if coaching can help me?
We'll have a consultation upfront. We'll get to know each other and talk about the coaching process, and the changes and benefits you are likely to experience. I will answer any questions you have, empowering you to make a fully informed decision about what is best for you.
Do I have to tell you everything about my past?
Only if you choose to. It is not necessary for the details of any situation to be shared. The great thing about trauma recovery coaching is that the techniques and skills are aimed at correcting issues affecting you in the present, not the past. Coaching aims to build upon the strengths and knowledge that you already have and looks at finding solutions to problems rather than focusing on the causes.
How many sessions will I need?
This is really up to you. Coaching is similar to your relationship with a physical therapist. The therapist will give you the exercises to get you back into shape while healing, but the therapist won’t come to your home to do the exercises for you. You have to do the work.
The same is true for coaching. For you to get the most out of it, you will need to do your work between coaching sessions as well. It’s a daily commitment inside and outside of your sessions to continue moving toward lasting transformation.
